The festive season is a time many of us cherish, full of togetherness, celebration and making memories. But for some, Christmas may feel especially meaningful.
Last December, Sarah’s daughter Emma was cared for by the Hospice. Here, she shares her story and the special moments they shared together, as a family.
“Emma was like a summer’s day. She was funny and loved making people happy, she was just a gift to us.” At just 26, Emma had a zest for life – passionate about music, photography and making memories with family, and friends. She had a job she loved and was excited to move into her first home with boyfriend, James.
In July 2024, Emma was diagnosed with breast cancer. She faced treatment with courage and hope, supported every step of the way by those close to her. A Clinical Nurse Specialist from the Hospice helped Emma to manage side effects she was experiencing but sadly, the cancer spread and Emma became too unwell to continue treatment.
She was admitted to the Hospice In-Patient Unit on the 15th December. “It was a really soft landing, like coming into a comforting pair of hands. The little details made all the difference; a Christmas wreath around her name on the bedroom door, and twinkling lights on the Christmas trees seen through the curtains. “The Hospice allowed us to focus on Emma and surround her with love. Making sure she always had company in a room full of her favourite things; family photos, a cosy blanket from home and music. I play those songs at home now to feel connected to Emma, keeping her close.”
Creating moments that matter
The little things the Hospice did during Emma’s stay meant the world to her. From sharing prosecco (Emma’s favourite) from the drinks trolley with friends, to starry lights from a nightlight that gently lit the room if she woke in the dark.
When Emma and James wanted to celebrate their love with a partnership ceremony, the Spiritual Support Team helped make this happen. Sarah painted Emma’s nails, the room was filled with beautiful flowers, and the team made sure her grandparents in Spain could join the ceremony virtually. “The ceremony was a warm burst of hope at a time when the family felt there was no hope left, and the end was near.
“We sat with Emma during her final days and were just allowed to love her, as her mum, dad, brother and boyfriend again, rather than her carers.
“Her brother Sam held her hand while I stroked her face. We talked about our memories of Emma as a child and as laughter filled the room, with two little breaths, she was gone. It was just the three of us and the music, it was so peaceful.
“Just two days later at home on Christmas Day, we prepared a traditional lunch and set a place with a glass of wine for Emma. She was still very much part of our day.”
Find out how you can gift a moment that matters this Christmas for patient’s like Emma and those closest to them, that they will cherish for years to come.
